Why is teen marriage looked down on now when it used to be common?
January 21st, 2010 by eranio
Don’t freak out, I’m not planning a shotgun wedding. But if there are two teen virgins who can support themselves and have faith in God, why has it become…um…*insert a nicer time for "slu**y here.*
Heck, Virgin Mary was married in her teens.
Is it just because times have changed? Is it that simple?
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January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Because it generally has a higher failure rate.
Teenagers are C-H-I-L-D-R-E-N!
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
gosh… i was hoping you could tell me
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Its not as common as you think it was and furthermore women used to stay at home so when they were done with high school then that was it, only thing left to do was to start making a family. Now women are educating themselves and are getting careers because it takes more then one person in the household to make enough of a living to support everything.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
first of all it was frowned upon in the old days too.She was like one of the first one to have teenage pregnancy and remember she didn’t have Jesus by ‘it’
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
i dont find anything wrong with teenage marriages. it’s only because most young marriages fail because one or both parties realize they perfer to have fun than be settled down. so either they agree on divorce or an open marriage.very seldom you will find the almost perfect unity like they show on television-one tree hill’s nathan and haley couple.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Because the sucess rates for teen marriage is not very high. Teens are still children, even if you are 18 and an adult by law. I just think its better to live and get some REAL life experience first.
It did used to be more common, but times were also different. People used to have to grow up a lot faster. Also, many of those marriages were not happy marriages. Divorce used to be looked down upon much more than it is today, so many couple stayed together regardless of whether or not they were happy.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
When (and if) the virgin mary was a teen, the average life expectancy was 30 years of age and women died even faster than men due to childbirth. Today the average life expectancy os 80 years of age, so if you marry someone at say 18, you can plan on being married to that person for about 62 years. It can happen and does happen, but for marriages to last this long is very rare indeed.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Most people just think that when you get married as a teenager you really don’t have the maturity level to be making a life long committed relationship really work and last.
Although some do, alot of them don’t. I was married at 18 and have been married for almost 6 years. It’s not easy being married, it takes alot of time, respect, and uncondtional love to really make it work and last.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
because back then all you had to do was grow stuff in your field to sell for food and animals.that was all you needed or wanted back then now.it take high school college a great job and then you still might not beable to get by.look how many people lost their homes and jobs.some of tose same people live on the streets now eat out of garbage cans.you have no way of supporting yourself .a minmum wage job won’t even get you a apartment with electricity.more less a ride to get to work food on the table,gas for a car,insurance to pay a doctor if you get sick.a god help any kids you have.clothes,their food….etc….but most kids think of it as a older person trying to tell them how to live their lives when really all they are trying to do is give the some good advice.the same advice their going to give their kids some day because they now realize how hard it was/or what really broke them up in the end.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
I think it is just that simple. In the old days, 40s 50s people never thought about careers, retirement, investments, higher education was for the wealthy white male, not women. Then everything changed, we realized we are all created equal, a women was not property, she had a mind and could have anything she wanted. She wasn’t something to be given to some man who truly most of the time gave her what he could. Same with all people. We want our children to have soooo much, and being married is so very hard at its best, its alot of work on a good day, with people who love each other and support each other through thick and thin. Much less when your young, have no real education, no money in the bank, and alot of time to look forward to. God has the same idea of what marriage is that hasn’t changed. People and what people want out of life, love, and marriage has changed alot. Something to think about.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
We usually died in our 30′s in Mary’s time
People change and getting married just to fuck is a bad bad idea
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January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Times have changed and that pretty much covers all of the pros and cons….they lived a different lifestyle in those days and times have even changed from out parents days..so wait and make sure you are stable and prepared
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
Because people are living longer and we live in a society were people stay children longer emotional. In your example the Virgin Mary did get married young, but with the hard lifestyle she had to grow up fast.
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
It’s not that people look down on young marriages, it’s just that most young marriages do not last. During the teens, your still growing and rapidly changing. You haven’t even lived life yet.
I was married at 18. I’m now 22 and just recently divorced in December 2009. We were quick to think we were ready, we thought love was enough. Apparently not. Marriage is hard, you have to constantly work hard at keeping the marriage alive and alot of things play in to parr.
For us, we struggled financially for most of the marriage. I had to take on alot, maybe a little too much which in return caused alot of stress, which in return caused us to argue quite a bit which then caused confusion on my part. I did some stupid things and my husband cheats on me out of vengence.
We divorce!!!!
January 21st, 2010 at 5:26 am
1. Life expectancy has changed. Back in the 1800′s, or early 1900′s, people didn’t live as long as they do today – you could die of the common cold or influenza – so you got married sooner so you could reproduce. You didn’t have until the typical life expectancy of 75 like we do today.
2. Expectations have changed. Young people today are generally expected to go to college and start a career before they get married. Marrying as a teen doesn’t allow this to happen.
3. Scientific research has shown us that the human brain doesn’t grow to its full size until age 24. Therefore, teens don’t have the full brain structures in place to help them make decisions such as marriage that will last their entire lives.
4. Faith in God doesn’t mean a lack of planning. Getting married means having the financial resources to pay for a house/apartment, a baby if you get pregnant, utilities, etc. In today’s economy, a high school education will not suffice. In this economy, college grads are having a hard time finding work.